In an instant…

Funny how life changes in an instant with such a few simple words… There have been a few times like that, most memorable was probable finding out i was pregnant after thinking we couldn’t have kids. That simple test changed my life irrevocably. and it happened twice! But that was 30+ years ago, and the resulting changes to my life were some of the hardest times and some of the best times my husband and had to navigate.

I’m sorry, its cancer… Those couple of words were said to me 20 years ago this February. I had to cancel many scheduled commitments, endure a year of painful surgery, chemotherapy, and disruption in our kids lives. But it was only a year, and there were some really positive things that came from it. Mostly about how I saw life…

I’m sorry… Those two words were said to my by the gastroenterologist who performed my husband’s endoscopy. That was six years ago… Those two simple words told me that in that instant, my life, future, everything we worked for would be changed irrevocably. My husband wasn’t goin to make it. He died 9 months later…

So I know how things can change in an instant… Monday morning I saw the physician for my annual. Everything is perfect. Blood numbers, Covid antibodies, I was in great shape. I had just written out my schedule for the week, other than planning to have my son visit Christmas Eve, (note to self… make up the guest room), I was finally free to play. My hairdryer died, and I wanted to pick up a couple Christmas cards for the kids, so I set out to walk to Walgreen’s, about a 6 minute walk, about 4:30pm. Still light, but I assumed it would be dark on my return. It is a walk I do most every day.

On the way home, I tripped over the asphalt curb at the end of my dead-end street. I tried to recover but ended up airborne, crashing down onto my left shoulder in the middle of the street. I heard the crack. At that moment, my neighbor came down the street in her car, saw me sprawled in the street, attempting to stand up, and not having an easy time of it, the pain was unbearable. She got me into her car, drove me three houses away, and took me home. I live with my daughter, so when I called for her, I knew it was broken. First break ever in 66 years. She loaded me into the car and took me to the ER. The rest is history. I have a CT scan scheduled Monday morning to see if I’ll need surgery. I broke the ball at the top of my humerus, that sits in the socket.

I’m so very lucky in so many ways. My daughter lives with and works for me. It could have been worse, involving an auto, etc. no one else was involved. The local community hospital we went to only had a two hour wait, instead of 12 for the nearest major medical center. The first 36 hours were mind numbingly painful but that seems to be subsiding and I’m mostly just uncomfortable. I can deal with that… There wasn’t anything of importance on my calendar, for the next couple of months, and I had just finished a run of Bronson Lace towels as gifts, washed, hemmed and ready to go, the previous Saturday.

I had just returned from a wonderful visit with my 90 year old mom in Maryland, where I discovered she still had and curled up under a mohair throw I wove for her in the early 1980’s. It is still lush and gorgeous and I snagged a photo.

i had spent the Friday before helping my weaving guild members sort through a large knitting yarn donation. We spent hours, but got it all into the small space we rent from the basement of the church where we meet, when we meet, because the last two years have been all on Zoom.

I brought home a couple of things that appealed to me, like this hand-painted wool. it was a one pound skein, with slight rodent damage, and took all Sunday morning to ball.

I spent all of Sunday planning a warp to go on the loom now empty from the towels. I wound, sleyed, threaded, and beamed a six yard warp, mixed wool and alpaca.

I found some llama I picked up years ago in a yarn crawl, for the weft. I have almost 1000 yards.

I picked a simple 4 shaft Swedish Rosepath draft from Davison and wove a repeat.

This made me smile…

And I’m lucky because we filmed three videos which haven’t launched yet, for the YouTube channel, The Weaver Sews, which if I’m really lucky will take me to when my arm comes out of the sling and I can hopefully and carefully prep for the last part of a three part series in my favorite piecing technique. Parts 1 and 2 were already shot. Right now my cutting table looks like this, layout for a summer dress, waiting for when I can use two arms again.

Don’t cry for me dear readers. From what I’ve read from my friends on social media, sharing their stories, this could have been far worse. I’m safe, and am very proud of myself when I manage to do something with one arm… it is the little things… like making bacon and eggs for myself yesterday morning. If you are reading this, it means I figured out how to write a post and process photos all with one arm, tedious but doable… I’m a weaver, I know what the definition of tedious is…

I cannot be more grateful for my daughter, who got up yesterday morning to the smell of bacon. She was stunned but not really surprised. Happy whatever you celebrate, stay safe in this time of never ending Covid. I switched to Tylenol, I’m not a Percocet kind of person. Which meant I could have a lovely glass of wine last night, and was proud of figuring out how to use the spigot on my box wine with one arm… There is always a way…

Stay tuned…

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Dayamitra
Dayamitra
December 23, 2021 2:43 pm

Get well soon, Daryl. Lucky you have your daughter to help you.

Dayamitra
Dayamitra
December 23, 2021 2:46 pm

Should have said “speedy recovery”.

Diane Rabinowitz
Diane Rabinowitz
December 23, 2021 4:24 pm

I love positive people and optimists! You’re on that list!

Last edited 26 days ago by Diane Rabinowitz
Cathy T.
Cathy T.
December 23, 2021 6:44 pm

After the intro. I was relieved it was ‘just’ a broken bone. Yes, speedy recovery!

Deborah
Deborah
December 23, 2021 7:04 pm

Ouch! Hope the pain lessens and your recovery is uneventful. Having had a complete shoulder replacement, I understand shoulder pain. Ice is good. I used this to help keep it in place:
https://smile.amazon.com/Shoulder-World-Bio-Premium-Reusable-Injuries/dp/B014IW28TQ/ref=sr_1_7?crid=EVPW0H7BQ5MZ&keywords=shoulder+ice+pack+holder&qid=1640303946&sprefix=shoulder+ice+pack+holder%2Caps%2C113&sr=8-7

Elizabeth Zell
Elizabeth Zell
December 23, 2021 7:58 pm

Happy holidays and wishing you a speedy recovery

Alice Sharick
Alice Sharick
December 23, 2021 8:06 pm

Wow! You never cease to amaze! Wishing you a beautiful Christmas!

Cynthia Hicks
Cynthia Hicks
December 23, 2021 8:21 pm

Life does change in an instant and often it brings new challenges. It sounds like you are up for this challenge. I hope you heal quickly. Merry Christmas to you and your daughter

JoAnne Tuffnell
JoAnne Tuffnell
December 23, 2021 8:48 pm

Sending best wishes for reduction of pain and healing as speedy as it can be…and for the enormous amount of patience you will need to wait it out. Your creative mind will keep on spinning out ideas, and you’ll figure a way to record them all. And yes to that glass of wine!

grace tully
grace tully
December 23, 2021 9:15 pm

Sending healing.

Joan Westhoff
Joan Westhoff
December 23, 2021 9:32 pm

You sure know how to make the best of circumstances. I enjoy watching you and am learning a lot. My husband was a weaver and I wish I had payed attention. I was the wool processor and spinner. I am almost your mom’s age. Take care.

Elizabeth
Elizabeth
December 23, 2021 9:48 pm

Hope all goes well and surgery etc can be done quickly and recovery is not too hard in the meantime have a great Christmas with your children and rest,we will all be waiting for you to recover no tush this again is you time

Judi
Judi
December 23, 2021 10:19 pm

Daryl get well soon. I love how you figure it out to do things with one arm. It’s so nice that your daughter is available to you too.

Kathyinozarks
Kathyinozarks
December 23, 2021 10:21 pm

Sending hugs and healing prayers

leilani bennett
leilani bennett
December 23, 2021 10:49 pm

A humongous amount of good thoughts are sent with this message from rainy (Yea!) Silicon Valley! Merry Christmas and speedy healing in the new year!

Giuliana Bendandi
Giuliana Bendandi
December 24, 2021 12:27 am

Dear Daryl! I hope your arms recovers quickly! Thank you for your post, blog and videos. I love them and learn so much. Best, Giuls

Linda Campbell
Linda Campbell
December 24, 2021 12:55 am

I am also sending best wishes from (finally) rainswept Silicon Valley. I hope your recovery is smooth and uneventful. Having splatted several times myself over the years, I know how painful the consequences can be. I have to admit, however, that I was amused when I remembered that the title of your previous post was “My arm gets twisted a lot ….” That’s supposed to be a figure of speech, Daryl, not something you have to literally do to yourself! We all believed you. All kidding aside, have a wonderful Christmas with your children, and best wishes for a speedy… Read more »

Marcia Zorn
Marcia Zorn
December 24, 2021 3:52 am

You are so amazing and always an inspiration. I am very sorry about your accident and am sending many caring thoughts and wishes for the speediest recovery possible.

Prue Hill
Prue Hill
December 24, 2021 4:53 am

Bummer!
Perhaps you should entice a physical therapist to assess the benefit of weaving on the recovery from shoulder injuries.
Get well soon.

Kathy
Kathy
December 24, 2021 6:22 am

Best wishes for a smooth recovery. Once again I reflect on your fortitude and positivity regardless of circumstances. Onward. Thanks for this post.

Peggy Bowman
Peggy Bowman
December 24, 2021 6:43 am

Ouch, Daryl. You are a survivor, so I know you’ll prevail, surgery or not. I’ll send prayers for a speedy recovery. Rest, dear girl and heal!! Have a warm and memorable Christmas with your family. Sending love and gentle hugs!

Marsha Lodge
Marsha Lodge
December 24, 2021 6:44 am

I’ve always believed it is about attitude. I read a card that said “every party has an end time, so have your pity party and then get on with your life”. You can be sad for a bit but then get over it. Well your pity party didn’t last long. You impart so much more to us than sewing and weaving tips. Good luck with your recovery. Looking forward to the new videos.

KAREN L LEACH
KAREN L LEACH
December 24, 2021 7:39 am

So happy to see that picture at the end of the blog. You look great, and you continue to be an inspiration in so many ways!

Sharolene Brunston
Sharolene Brunston
December 24, 2021 9:13 am

Oh Daryl, I’m so very sorry about your poor shoulder. You are the 2nd person I know who has had a broken shoulder lately. I have never known anyone with one and now I know two. You are an inspiration to us all. I (like Cathy T.) am relieved that it was a shoulder and not something much worse. I know it’s painful and hope the Tylenol is working for you. I hope you heal fast and well and there are no surgeries in your future.

Ruth Ellen
Ruth Ellen
December 24, 2021 11:19 am

May your recovery be swift and good ~ grateful you have your daughter! I know so many who have had shoulder injuries and replacements (partial, full, reversals) and all recovered well. So hope for the New Year! You are remarkable and resourceful. All good wishes, Ruth Ellen

Linda Christopher
Linda Christopher
December 24, 2021 7:38 pm

Oh my goodness – it was fate – your previous post started with “my arm gets twisted a lot”. As “they” say … be careful what you put out there

Karin
Karin
December 25, 2021 12:26 pm

Get well soon!
Merry Christmas from Germany,
Karin

Linda
Linda
December 26, 2021 2:27 pm

I’m so sorry this happened – heal quickly!

Gail Caron
Gail Caron
December 27, 2021 11:31 am

Oh no! I know how painful shoulder injuries are. I wish I had your outlook on things.

I hope you heal quickly.

Meg Wilson
December 27, 2021 4:25 pm

Wishing you a speedy and effective recovery! Cheers to you daughter! And may 2022 be a really good year!

renee berry
renee berry
December 28, 2021 8:22 am

Wishing you the fastest recovery possible. Looking for the “bright spots” in life has always been my go-to and it is nice to see others have that outlook too. And is it strange considering your previous post title? Karmic? Prescient?

Last edited 22 days ago by renee berry
Lori
Lori
January 4, 2022 6:22 pm

Oh, I know how you’re feeling! Last year I fell off an orchard ladder and broke 4 bones in my face and my wrist. How frustrating it was!

I hope you heal fast.

Fredi Brown
Fredi Brown
January 11, 2022 3:19 pm

Daryl sorry about your shoulder ?? You’re such a trooper, never complaining. (At least within earshot!) I hope you heal quickly and completely.